Whenever I have relationship issues I find myself reevaluating other aspects of my life.
Well, this relationship 'issue' was a doozy..so in keeping with my reevaluation period and based on the severity of the situation, I've decided to take things to a new level and blog about it!
Typically I ask myself the following questions:
-What do I need?
-What do I want?
Today I added:
-What do I deserve?
It's interesting to see the correlation between your emotional state and your physical one. There's no denying that when I'm unhappy, stressed, hurt or frustrated that my surroundings show it.
I'm not trying to change that part of myself necessarily, yet, but I am trying to make my life easier when stressful times come up.
There are some areas of my home that are easier to tackle. Over the years I've gotten better about deciding to get rid of things like old conditioner bottles and almost-empty things in the bathroom. I also (and very proudly, I must admit), do not have a junk drawer or any catch all spaces.
I struggle a lot with how much of something I need. Will I regret throwing or giving it away? The worst of it is definitely the feeling of 'if I were more productive in a day I would use this', 'if I were a better mom I'd use this', 'if I got up earlier I could make time for this' and of course 'if I was thinner I could use this'.
My home still reminds me daily of the person I would like to be, or the person I think I should be. It's just not realistic. I'm not, currently, that person. I'm very much a single, tired, 14 week pregnant mother of 2.
My focus is now convenience and necessity.
What do I need everyday? I'm talking basic, basic needs. Diapers, wipes, TV remotes, olive oil, a pan, plates, shampoo, toilet paper, garbage bags, dish soap, etc.
Out of that, how many pans is logical to keep? How many plates do I need for 1 adult and two children?
What are the things that are unnecessary in my home? Pictures on walls, DVDs, knick-knacks, toys, books, etc. Out of those items, what is important enough to keep? Do I really watch all the DVDs? Do I look at and enjoy the knick-knacks? Can the kids really enjoy all their toys and books with so many?
What do I deserve?
I deserve items to pamper myself. While unnecessary, things like bubble bath, candles, perfume, hair products and other beauty products are something I should find a more permanent place in my home for (within reason of course), because such items will add to my quality of life, whereas knick-knacks take my time and energy (having to clean them, be careful of them, find places for them).
What in my home is overshadowed by having too many of the same item?
Right on back to knick-knacks. There are a few things I love and a ton of things I like. The things I love are drowned out by all of the things I just like. I should find a few special places for a few special things. I would enjoy the things left more, it would create more peaceful space and I would stop resenting things simply for being there and in my way. Clothes are a big one. I hate going into my closet and seeing a billion things I can't wear. I need to be less idealistic and more realistic in my choices when deciding these things.
My goal is really to have a nearly empty house with only items I love or need. And while that has always been a goal of mine, acheiving it has been slow going.
I'm interested in reading about people's experiences and any ideas on how to accomplish such a large project
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